With the holidays over and things a little {less} crazy around here I have been feeling lonely.
Loneliness, it is one of things that I never expected to come along with motherhood. I mean, I am ALWAYS with someone {albeit mostly people age 2 and under}. But, I just always feel alone to some extent.
I have been thinking about it a lot, reading blogs of other mothers & picking up books on this "struggle" of motherhood.
I just never imagined it to be so hard.
I have twins, yes. I have a 2 year old. But, this struggle I feel seems so universal among mothers who have 1, 2, 3 or 6 kids. My life is hard as a mother, but my struggle is the same. So many times I have thought it would be easier if I had only 1 kid or atleast not twins....but, I know it is not true, it is not my kids or your kids or how many we have, but it is simply the daunting day to day reality of simply be a mom.
I have always wanted to be a mom. I know there are women out there who have dreamed of it their whole lives and then there are some who it happened to unexpectedly. But, I feel like no matter how you happened into being a mom, you just never really can be prepared for what the reality of this title means.
I feel like I am stumbling through this daily learning process, wondering why all the visions and ideas I had about being a mom seem so....distant & so hard to make a reality.
And in the midst of all this wondering about who you are as a mom, you wonder, who am I....who am I outside of being a mom?
We need help. We need each other. There is so much comparison, so much time spent feeling like you just can't get it "right."
I wish there was more support among moms for one another, especially the older generation for the younger. One thing I know I want to do when I have made it through these difficult days of my children being little, is to reach out and support moms who are where I am now.
We live such "connected" lives on Facebook and other social media, but we have never been more disconnected.
Fellow moms, lets be there for each other in our {real} lives. Reach out to another mom because she is probably feeling as lonely as you are. If your kids are older or even out of the house, reach out to a young/new mom, she needs you more than you know.
Being a mom can be lonely, but it doesn't have to be. No one can quite understand you like another mom. We need each other!
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When I heard about this spa weekend away of mentoring and fun from Sally Clarkson & Sarah Mae, I knew I had to try and win this getaway...I need it SO bad! If you know how I feel and would like to join me, let me know, because I can take one friend along if I win! :) I don't have an experienced mom who has reached out to me (and stayed there for me), so this really pulls at my heart.
http://desperatemom.com/spamentoring-weekend-with-sally-clarkson-sarah-mae/
